Eating Disorder: My Struggle and My Recovery

I’m Jan …this is a piece of my story… From the outside, my life was “perfect”. As a child and a teenager, achievement and success had always been my way of coping with an out-of-control home life. I grew up in a home with an alcoholic. Life was never predicable, so I took comfort in the […]

I am Enough

There’s this one scene in the movie Pretty Woman where Vivian is lying in bed with Edward. The dialogue goes like this: Vivian: People put you down enough, you start to believe it. Edward: I think you are a very bright, very special woman. Vivian: The bad stuff is easier to believe. You ever notice […]

She’s Better Than Me…and That’s O.K.

I don’t know if it’s a “girl” thing or what, but if my memory serves me right, I started out life comparing myself with the girls around me. I couldn’t have been more than 5 when I noticed that when we colored at our babysitter’s house, my little sister Chelsea and I picked different pictures […]

She’s Flawless…Or Is She…?

Somewhere, right now, there is a woman walking on the sidewalk, her inconceivably toned body cat-walking in her designer suit. In complete tranquility, she flawlessly handles more roles than she can count on her manicured fingers. She has carefully dusted trophies lining her Italian marble antique hearth, congratulating the immaculate job she has done with […]

You’ve Been Lied To (and You Believed It)

Have you ever been lied to? Probably. I’m going to just be bold and say…yes, of course you have been lied to, at some time or another in your beautiful life. Sometimes it’s hard to find comfort, especially the soul kind, because at the root of it all…we have often been lied to…..but that’s not […]

Your Potential is Infinite

I used to read a lot of books about leadership and setting goals and going after your dreams…every book I read talked about how every human being has incredible, untapped potential…I wanted SO badly to believe the things that I read in those books…but, I always thought…’well, everyone but ME has huge potential…” …and I […]

You in the Picture

In 2011, I wrote a blog post that said: In the last three years, I’ve taken over 200,000 photos. Most of these are pictures of my family. My kids, my husband, parents, etc.  I just went back and looked at all of them. Guess how many of these photos have me in them? Eleven. I […]

Embracing Yellow (and Embracing Me!)

Some time last year, I went to a class about personality types with my niece, who is also one of my very best friends….when we sat down and started reading over the materials…and the types of personalities that were categorized into colors……..she said to me… “you are definitely a yellow.” I read over the description […]

The PROVING MY WORTH Trap

This is a rough-earned lesson I learned a while back……thank goodness. But it is also a lesson that I often forget when I am feeling weak and powerless….when I forget my deepest wisdom and what I have learned along the way. I have a pattern of doing it….but as time goes on, I pull myself […]